By Michael Thompson, Founder of Falsely Accused Network
Through my years running Falsely Accused Network, I’ve seen a disturbing pattern that I need to warn others about. It’s what I call the “Non Molestation Order Applicant Contact Trap” regarding Non-Molestation Orders, and it’s something every respondent needs to understand.
Here’s how the trap often plays out: The applicant (usually the ex-partner) obtains a Non-Molestation Order against you. Then, despite having claimed they’re afraid of you and need protection, they begin reaching out to you. These contacts might seem innocent at first:
“Can we talk about the children?”
“I miss you”
“I didn’t mean for this to go this far”
“I’m struggling without you”
The natural human response would be to reply, especially when it involves your children or when the message appears conciliatory. However, this is exactly what some applicants are counting on. The moment you respond – even with a simple “okay” or “please stop contacting me” – you’ve breached the Non-Molestation Order. This breach is a criminal offence, regardless of who initiated the contact or why you responded.
I’ve seen cases where men have lost their jobs, faced criminal charges, and even been imprisoned because they fell into this trap. One particularly heartbreaking case involved a father who received dozens of messages about his critically ill child. When he finally responded with “Is she okay?”, he was arrested the next day for breaching the order.
What You Must Do:
1. Never respond to any contact – no matter how urgent it seems
2. Save and document all attempted contact from the applicant
3. Forward all evidence to your solicitor
4. If child contact is needed, ensure it goes through your solicitor or an approved third party
5. Keep a detailed log including dates, times, and content of all contact attempts
Remember – even if the applicant tells you “it’s okay to reply” or “I’ve dropped the order,” don’t believe it. Only the court can vary or discharge a Non-Molestation Order. Any communication should be made through proper legal channels.
In my experience, some applicants deliberately try to provoke a response to demonstrate “continued control” or to have evidence of a breach. It’s a cruel tactic, but one that’s sadly effective if you’re not prepared for it.
Michael Thompson
Founder, Falsely Accused Network
[Feel free to contact our network for support and guidance if you’re facing false allegations or navigating a Non-Molestation Order. Remember, you’re not alone in this fight.]
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